Asking Girls Out

Back in the nineties, us men had to get over our insecurities and just make a fool of ourselves when it came to asking girls out. I remember a time when my friends told me to just suck it up and walk up to that kiosk girl, at the local mall, and ask her out. I remember that embarrassing moment when your girl crush sees you stumbling walking towards her. Most of the time, they see you coming a mile away, and they’ve already know whether they want to talk to you or not. But most guys have no idea, so you inch closer into the danger zone to shoot your shot.

The Danger Zone

Once you get ten feet from the girl, for some reason, it gets harder to keep eye contact with her. Your eyes wander all over the place. It’s like those flight sims where you’re trying to keep the reticle on the target but it keeps moving everywhere except on the target. That’s what it felt like. As you’re walking towards your target, you have dozens of scenarios running through your head. You’re thinking about things to say. You’re coming up with the play-by-plays, the intros you want to make, and how cool you should act.

The First Contact

So you’ve manager to get two feet from her. Now the hard part. Coming up with the first words to say out of the dozens of scenarios you’ve played out in your head. You’ve got this. It’s easy. Let’s try the first scenario. Say something simple and cool. All you could muster up was one stupid word, “Hey!” How embarrassing. You shot your first shot and you’ve failed. The girl looks at you awkwardly and throws the same word back but in a “I’m not interested in talking” kind of vibe.

Don’t Get Discouraged

At this point you have two choices, “Fight or Flight”. Which is it? You chose “Fight”. Good choice, now you’re thinking like a real man. You just need to make a connection somehow. Does she know anyone you know? Yes she does! So you use that and say, “Hey, how’s Anthony.” (that’s her cousin by the way). She responds with, “You know Anthony?” That’s it! Now you’ve got her attention. You’ve got a second chance. Don’t blow it. The rest is just small talk. Make it quick, grab her number, and get the hell out of there.

It’s in the Numbers

Your first is always the most memorable and most devastating when you fail. However, as a man living in the ’90s and having to approach girls in real life, it was just something every man had to go through. It was a rights of passage. I’m not going to say the first ten was easy but after that it gets a lot easier. The one thing I would say is guys talking to girls in the ’90s was a lot easier than guys talking to girls today. There was no distraction and you could easily gage whether you had a chance right away. It was a much simpler time.